She's in MLC, but I was weak. Now what?

[ericmsant2]

Crushed

Stupid that it takes something like this to be a catalyst.

I actually agree with this Crushed.

What is even more stupid...is not taking the TIME that has been given to you to learn from your mistakes. At least that is my opinion and FTR, my motto is opinion are like as*holes...every body's got one.

Crushed, You sound defeated and entitled.

And man do I know that feeling. It is not a good mind set to have if you are really trying to save your M.

I'm sure you've heard this BUT....

Many will tell you "fu*k her...look at what she is doing"

Many will tell you to "get on with your life"

Many will tell you that "she does not respect you"

Many will tell you that "you need to man up"

Everyone, myself included will have an opinion...

Know what...

The only opinion that matters is YOURS.

So sit still for a second...clear your mind and your heart. Clear all of the anger and then think...

About the happy times with your W

Your wedding day...

When you first child was born

When you first made love to your wife

When you felt so good

Then look in the mirror and ask yourself...

Does she deserve the time that I CHOOSE to give her

Does she deserve the opportunity to fall on her face...all the while knowing that YOU will be there to pick her up.

10 years...buddy...10 years...two children...

Oh...and your Wife is having a crisis right now. You may not see it, fu*k you may never see it...BUT she needs you.

Finally, you mentioned to Grit that your sitch and you are unique...

You are unique because you are YOU

You are unique because GOD made you unique

You are unique because YOU will make a choice

Choose wisely my friend.

I hope and pray that you and your wife reconcile...

I really do buddy - more than you can even imagine.

Oh..."happening to me"....sounds like a victim to me.

Change how you look at things...is your sitch happening to YOU OR is the MLC happening to HER? Which do you think?

God Bless,
Eric