exactly....thank God for you guys! And Mystik you hit the nail onthe head. But Soleil, Iread your post last night and your words "but really nothing has changed in your life because you signed the paper" stayed with me. I was trying not to break down on my way to work and I thought of those words again and again in a loop. It is true.
I know how this crap goes. Up and down. I know I say one thing and the next day say another. I hate it. But I got through today being really busy at work. I am emailing a different guy as well as the country boy right now.
Here is something about that: the country boy wants to live in the country and have his own farm one day. When I asked him if he had dated women who lived an hour away he said no but he was open to trying new things. Hmm...yet he wants to stay where he lives and I told him I prefer the city? And we both have 50-50 custody? What is the point of this correspondence? I guess I am curious about meeting him in person. He is 37, looking for women in the age range of 25-41. He has been divorced 5 years, been dating but has had 2 relationships since his divorce. He has sons aged 12 and 15.
Now the other guy is 38, has never been married, just engaged. He said she called it off. He has a 4 year old daughter. He works in the tech field, plays guitar, is professionally trained as a chef, prefers "authenticity" in life, is a "family man," is into smaller groups of close friends rather than a larger crowd at a party, and so far I am finding it rather easy to communicate with him via email. Which can be hard to do. His profile says he is "a few extra pounds" but his face looks cute and I don't know what that really means. His age range is 34-42.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004