Hey HIL, first and foremost there is rule #1, dont believe 100% of a word they say. truly. my W has told me all of the usual BS...
"I dont love you." "I dont think I ever loved you." "We were too young." "We rushed into our marriage." "I cannot recall any of the good times and do not think there were any." (yeah, 15y of M w/ NO good times) "I despise you." "I cannot remember anything positive about you."
Agree with Rondo. It IS a bad drama. one of those bad tv movies on Lifetime or WE starring Susan Lucci or Dean Cain or Shannon Dougherty. except we're starring in it, LOL.
You CANNOT believe anything she says bc my W is acting differently now from when she spouted that BS above more than 1-2 months ago (which is really not that long a time in the world of DB), still not there obviously bc it is all too recent. when W was in throes of her A, she would spew such venom and anger at me.
nothing i did was good enough, "that's why our M will never work." "are you afraid of being alone?" No, i am not.
is D the answer? dont know. dont think so actually. the WAS thinks that maybe it is. little do they know that it is a lot easier said than done to divorce. there are the kids to think about, our house (i will either sell it or rent a bulldozer bc she's not getting it), our friends... you will be in her life forever.
time is what is needed here. u need to try to detach. hard to do i know. we are all here together as well. be strong amigo.
and Rondo, btw my OM2 is in the Jville area, ha. should send him a shout out.
