It is not until we get to the other side of this journey and look back and see the true benefit of taking the journey
isn't that the truth...thanks for reminding me
CW - thank you, I can't wait to have this messy part behind me and be able to concentrate on my new life.
Eric - thank you so much for your very insightful post. I agree with you on all points. I realize that I still have lots of work to do on myself...it will come, I know it will. I guess I was having a little self pity slash anger party in my last post. But I must tell you that I'm feeling more and more peaceful now....less angry....I have more less accepted my situation and what I need to do to move forward. Talking to the lawyer really helped me to clarify my way and I now see how I can pave my way out of this mess. And I think that is helping a lot.
Had a second meeting with my lawyer, worked out some more details as to what should be included in the SA. We also decided that I will discuss with him what I'm working on and see what is his reaction. No point preparing the agreement and spending so much money on it if he will not sign.
So that's what I did. You would be proud of me, I was calm, pleasant but business like. Told him that I've contacted a lawyer to help us untangle our finances and help us with division of assets, parenting issues and business issues. Told him everything that the lawyer and I are talking about and he was actually very nice and receptive...didn't argue any points. Told him that it will take about a week, that I wanted it done faster because I wanted to transfer the house to me before I list it for sale but my lawyer is backed-up. He said don't worry, list it now, I'll sign it when it's ready. But I'll wait...as per my lawyer's advice.
Well as I was calmly talking about breaking up our life together, item by item....from life insurance to daughter's University expenses....he got emotional quite a few times and there were tears in his eyes. So let's wait and see if he signs the SA when it's ready.
Yesterday I posted this on my Facebook wall
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"
Couldn't believe it when my H commented and "liked it"....seriously...
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
