I'm new at this and I have a deadline of sorts coming up. Most people seem to be of the perspective that setting a deadline usually fails.

If you are done, you are done but I think I'd give it a little more time. You don't have to tell her you are, but maybe another month. That way if she is the type that doesn't do well with deadlines, she has the opportunity to save face.

M:37
W:34
M:4 years
T:6 years
No Kids
A disclosed - 9/1/2010
W asks for separation - 10/19/2010
Moving on - 10/24/2010
A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010
Content - 3/1/2011
Served - 3/18/2011
D Day - 6/20/2011