Omg sunny. Totally have that book. It is a nice way to look at the "science" of relationships which blends in nicely with Retrouvaille. We did it 2 weeks ago. On the Friday night before Retrou the W felt we were DONE. By Sunday afternoon she said she had HOPE! The couples were great. One of the H's had had A 16 y ago (he's 70 now) and wife talked with him on side Saturday night (sort of nono but...). He counseled her to keep trying. He was where she was. Was great for that alone bc it opened her eyes. He n his W fully reconciled. And Lotus is dead on: it IS about foregiveness. Past is past. Without it there is no chance at reconciliation. Easy to say sure n hard to do but u have to ask yourself: do I love my WAS? More later.
