The truth is I wanted to say to her: "Good parents stay in a committed marriage since statistics show that children of divorce are more likely to have a lot of problems when they get older. (this was a quote another poster suggested to me).
My XW was feeling closer to me. That is why she ended the email with hugs. I figured it was not a time to lay into her so I took the kind/compassionate route. This is what I wrote: I am glad you have feelings like that. It makes me feel closer to you.
The truth is what makes me feel closer is not that we share similar views...it's that we care enough to talk to each other and work through things. It means a lot to me. Open communication are the key to everything and can solve anything. Sometimes in life people are scared to openly communicate for fear of the response they might get. I will always listen."
You have to understand that in the past I would never listen. We did not have 2 way communications at all. It usually was me pushing my opinion.
As the saying goes..."you can't change anyone's mind. They are on their own journey and have to figure things out on their own".
I just try to be kind and compassionate. In life now, those 2 values are important to me.
Me/W: 46/36 D7.6/S6 T/M: 7.5/6.5 Bomb 12/05/07 D final: 03/03/09
