Mishka, in the end, I'm doubting STBXW will take away band. She threatened her with it and D11 loves band -- she just started -- so I'm guessing she'll get her act together.

I've sent STBXW a couple of emails on other stuff -- scheduling things -- and I'm leaving for Chicago to work for the weekend. I'm the one who wants to deal by email so if there's nothing in my inbox on Sunday night when I get back I'll put together a note about what I heard at the conferences and ask her how she's dealing with D11 on the math issue.

Your last line is a key. The work IS overwhelming. But she wanted it this way. When you say it takes two very involved parents 100% of the time to get kids through school these days, I agree with that. But I only have them 35% of the nights and STBXW doesn't want me there at night. That's where I'm limited.


Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11
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