# 72 - Could be better, could be worse...

[Dr LOve]

H's resignation was announced yesterday.He feels sad and upset. But he says he is happy with his decision. I have been trying to be "there" for him and he has been very tender and nice.

Kalni,

YES be there for him but... give him space also... I know when my wife lost her job... well... I wanted to fix things...and it just upset her more... And now that she is looking...even more egg shells to walk on.
You may already know this but when talking to him about future work prospects…
Words Not to use…. “You should”
At least with my wife I have learned (the hard way)… If I have a suggestion about work... Instead of
“You’re good at XXXXX you should try looking for work at XXXXXX”
The right way….

“You’re good at XXXXX... have YOU ever thought about looking for work at XXXXX”