Oh and I forgot one of the best things she was saying last night when she was trying to bargain.
"You could date someone while we're together. I would understand."
Normally I would see this as a huge red flag for an EA/PA, but this time I think she was just clutching for anything to placate me.
I told her that it was a disgusting idea, that I'd be lying to my daughters, and being a sleazeball. Just amazed that she'd want to live in an open marriage.