Now I'm Walking Away Part 2

[FindingMyVoice]

Nah. She told me that. Now I know how it felt.

Hey Pinhead. Have you mentioned that to her? (ie that you can relate to/validate how she might have felt)? Don't know if that's the right thing or not; was just curious because it made me think of what Coach said above...

When you validate it creates a connection. Right now if you hold your ground all while seeing who she is and what she needs, then you create that attraction you are searching for.

[pinhead]

When she told me that, I didn't know how to validate. It was right after the bomb.

[FindingMyVoice]

When she told me that, I didn't know how to validate. It was right after the bomb.

I see. Well you know, there is no statute of limitations on validation.

[pinhead]

Oh, I'm on the alt now. Just search for Pin Head..

[pinhead]

Oh and I forgot one of the best things she was saying last night when she was trying to bargain.

"You could date someone while we're together. I would understand."

Normally I would see this as a huge red flag for an EA/PA, but this time I think she was just clutching for anything to placate me.

I told her that it was a disgusting idea, that I'd be lying to my daughters, and being a sleazeball. Just amazed that she'd want to live in an open marriage.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I told her that it was a disgusting idea, that I'd be lying to my daughters, and being a sleazeball. Just amazed that she'd want to live in an open marriage.

For the record, that was totally NOT validation.

[pinhead]

Yeah, some things you can't validate...

[TimeHeals]

For the record, that was totally NOT validation.

For the record, I think she was testing him to see if he was interested in somebody else, and it's probably not a brilliant idea to validate that

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I understand what you are saying and I think I know why, but I cannot live that way and I don't want our daughters to think its ok.

[pinhead]

For the record, that was totally NOT validation.

For the record, I think she was testing him to see if he was interested in somebody else, and it's probably not a brilliant idea to validate that

Sh!te, you might be right. That never entered my mind as a possible reason for asking.