I got remarried and divorced while the system was down.
Kerry ~ I thought we werent' going to air our dirty laundry on the board. See, it wasn't him it was me. I felt like we grew apart, that we married each other to young, that the stars and planet were not aligned properly, and plus my "friend' from work had nothing to do with it. LMAO
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
H's resignation was announced yesterday.He feels sad and upset. But he says he is happy with his decision. I have been trying to be "there" for him and he has been very tender and nice. He says he isnt worried about the future granted we will be down 50% of our montly income. So from living a comfortable life and saving we will have to adjust our life style a little bit now. Funny, now that he will have time, money will become an issue. I dont care and he say he doenst give a f@ck. We will be fine.
Last night I was watching a live TV show and guess who was at the audience? OW. I was shocked or anything. I actually feel we will be meeting accidentaly one of these days. At the airport or elsewhere. I didnt get mad and she didnt look that good. She looked like normal woman. I realise I am still mad at her but I am now seeing her with some kind of twisted compassion. She has gotten so close a few times and she was left, as she feared, with nothing. The consequences of what was a passionate story for her, are huge for me but...what can I do?
This is an era of change for me and my life. And I am staying low, trying to get ready for what will come. K
H's resignation was announced yesterday.He feels sad and upset. But he says he is happy with his decision. I have been trying to be "there" for him and he has been very tender and nice.
Kalni,
YES be there for him but... give him space also... I know when my wife lost her job... well... I wanted to fix things...and it just upset her more... And now that she is looking...even more egg shells to walk on. You may already know this but when talking to him about future work prospects… Words Not to use…. “You should” At least with my wife I have learned (the hard way)… If I have a suggestion about work... Instead of “You’re good at XXXXX you should try looking for work at XXXXXX” The right way….
“You’re good at XXXXX... have YOU ever thought about looking for work at XXXXX”
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
If there is one thing I learned especially in the last 3 years and in general; life is in a constant flux. Nothing stays the same....when it does (for a while) we get complacent or take things for granted. So I guess the secret is that old cliche "enjpy the moment"....becasue in a second it will be gone. What will we be left with? A memory........make good memories. I understand what you mean however. In this case you know changes lie ahead. I remember talking to you a long time ago and you were hoping or actually wishing that your hubby quit on eof his jobs.....well here we are.....keep it positive. Money is nice...you can buy things.....but you can not buy time. As far as the other change is concerned, well I don't have very much exerience with that at all. The only thing I can muster up is I am sorry. I feel an attachment to your dad (the way you have described him). I don't think I ever heard or read anything close to a negative word regarding him. Be strong Maria....be there for the people you love.
My OB doctor scared me today. I was supposed to have a lump checked out with a mammogram and an unltra sound. I called to ask when should I have those done so that he could read the results and advise me and he said I shoudl go ahead and schedule an operation/removal/biopsy since "he knew there was something there-felt it during examination I should go ahead and have an operation". The same doc 3 months ago told me it wasnt much to worry about. I argued how could he proceed with no tests/results, he said in ten minutes we would know if it was cancer.
Today a friend of mine had a mastectomy, stage III cancer, because her OB was not a special in breasts and couldnt read a mammogram. He opened her up only to close her again and reduced her chances of survival because she cant have chemo immediately.
I ignored my OB, found and arranged an urgent meeting with a hospital's top specialist and had a mammogram and an ultra sound in 3 hours. I am clear, nothing abnormal, no ops needed. I think I lost 3 years of my life. My H came and met me at the doc's office and was with me all the way. (years ago I did that on my own-he couldnt remember why, I could: THE FOG).
I am mad at my doc, he obviously needed some extra money. I am happy and grateful I am OK.
A famous greek poet(ress), had an interview on TV. She said being in love is all about speed and has time as an enemy. We should not talk about "a love" until it's dead. If there is something left then it has become love, if it is nothing left, then it was...fog she said. She said, "what meaning it had, we figure from the words we use about it to judge it AFTERWARDS". My H says his A was A HUGE MISTAKE.
