Maybe you could call the hotline and ask them if there is anything specific you should/can say or do... they are trained in dealing with people in your H's situation.
(((hugs))) PEI
Oh, and yes, I realize this could be seen as trying to "fix" him ... but IMO it's better to see if there's a way to make sure he sticks around to fix himself.
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
