I know that the 30 days is your wife's idea, several times now.
But, that her deadline DOESN'T have to be your deadline.
You are moving back to the States and have to find a new job anyway, what does it hurt to locate one in Denver...not if a good one comes up, but just determine Denver right now.
Look, almost every LBS here can say that their spouse was 100% done. Yours? By your own admission say she isn't, doesn't know or is trying.
What if she is only 40% sure she wantsd to be married?
Does that mean Seattle?
You moving out of state, YOU pretty much end this.
And she goes to 100% certain you're done and she is done because you showed her she in unforgivable.
I also...personally worry when a man weighs his marriage against his job. See I'll bet you are very successful, but when you die, is your job going to the one that has fond memories of you? Shed tears? Or your family? The one your born into and the one you choose.
Is it pursuing?
Ummmmm....should you live in...Malaysia? Maybe try working on dating and building a romance from there with her? That would pretty much show no signs of co-dependancy or pursuing.
To live close enough to work on your marriage together...is not pursuing.
Driving by her house 12 times, and calling her to see her 48 times a day is...and over the top creepy. THAT is the ultimate in pursuing.
And you know what you're going to learn here if you stick?
Your marriage is all up to you the LBSer, it lives or dies because of you. Nursing it back, but if like a doctor you call it dead?
It is dead.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
