STBXH and I have agreed on custody and visitation w/the boys. It was a bit painful, figuring out visitation, but... I ended up with what I wanted, and I don't think he feels like he's been "cheated" in his relationship and time w/them.
We're at a stand-still w/financial negotiations. We're about $600 a month in support/maintenance OFF in what our expectations are... Funny, I originally would have settled EASILY for his offer, as it stands now. But, my L is dead set on making sure I get what I need for my boys, and, since, I've really not run a household financially (much), I'm trusting him. Apparently, the deal we're making is NOTHING compared to what a judge would decide. So, unless he buckles before 10/29, a judge will decide, and STBXH will have to provide a TON of paperwork, give up business and personal asset information, etc... He hasn't filed taxes in 15+ years. He's not into paperwork. This ought to be interesting.
I'm just really tired of being in this big, old house. I want to get moved, and settled w/my boys in a new environment. New positive energy. And, all of the clutter left behind.
I love my life now. I can't believe I ever settled for less!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
