I appreciate your support and encouragement a LOT, so I hope you're not irritated when I say that I'm not keen on going dark with Mr. A. (I'll bet you're not surprised, either! )
I realize that going dark is about demonstrating consequences to actions, but it doesn't seem like it would give either of us any useful information.
Here's a somewhat similar situation from my job:
Recently I had a consulting firm conduct what was basically a customer satisfaction survey and we had a lot of respondents who filled in the comments section. The most useless comments were the ones that said "This survey is stupid" or something to that effect.
I'm like, well what am I supposed to do about it? We already sent you the survey, so that's done, and you didn't say why it was stupid or how it could've been better, so your comment means nothing at this point. It's your opinion, you're certainly entitled to it, but it provides absolutely no actionable information to me.
Either I can ignore those comments or I can follow up with the individual respondents for more information, but as they stand, they don't help me at all.
That's sort of how I feel about what just transpired with Mr. A and me.
If I go dark on Mr. A now, all I'll know is that he can't keep his d&(# in his pants.
And, as far as I see it, all he'll know is that when he says something I don't like, I ignore him. More of the same from our marriage.
With Mr. A or a future love interest, I don't want to be an ignorer. That approach has NOT served me well in the past, although it is my natural tendency.
So that's what I'm thinking. 2X4s welcome, though I can't guarantee that they'll get through my thick skull!
Sincerely, Mrs. A
P.S. I left 2 messages for my IC and haven't heard back from him yet.
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