hey Pinhead, I think it's great that you are taking the direction that YOU need to go regardless of whether that is trying to salvage things or Divorce. You are really showing some backbone here.
My sitch is easy as i get nothing in the way of communication from my stbex. If mine address's me by name in an email or signs her name at the end I see that as progress LOL.
I can only imagine how difficult it is making hard decisions instead of taking the easy and wrong way if you get little glimmers of hope.
From what you have written I can see the initiative changing sides in your case and think you will have some very difficult decisions to make down the road.
I really hope this all works out for YOU and your D's
