But isn't her worries about money where she needs to put on her BGPs? Granted, if we were reconciling, I'd think differently. But she needs to understand how things are going to be from now on. I won't be there as a shoulder to cry on.
Very insightful, very true. It is not so much that you are a money maker for her, but you provide a safe place for her (emotionally). You can turn this into a positive. You can use this to lead your R to new places if you so choose.
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
I am not saying go rescue her. When a woman expresses what she feels she wants her man to see into her. I want you to understand so you can love her the best you can. When you validate it creates a connection. Right now if you hold your ground all while seeing who she is and what she needs, then you create that attraction you are searching for.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I have a feeling that there is a good ending to this.
I can't see a good ending anymore. I just want to live again. I'm checking out of Limbo.
You know what I meant. Good ending is when you are happy with the outcome. If your W finds the real love for you again, it's the icing on your cake.
I don't think I'll ever be happy with the outcome, no matter if I find a new Mrs. Pinhead, reconcile with my W, or live by myself. I'll always know that my actions have hurt my daughters. Mylife might end up fine, but I'm responsible for two others too! I'll accept the outcome, and just try to own what is my part. But happy about it? Hard for me to see how.
I don't think I'll ever be happy with the outcome, no matter if I find a new Mrs. Pinhead, reconcile with my W, or live by myself. I'll always know that my actions have hurt my daughters. Mylife might end up fine, but I'm responsible for two others too! I'll accept the outcome, and just try to own what is my part. But happy about it? Hard for me to see how.
Then maybe it's premature to predict the end. Move on and let her miss you. Feeling change, she had them for you before.
hey Pinhead, I think it's great that you are taking the direction that YOU need to go regardless of whether that is trying to salvage things or Divorce. You are really showing some backbone here.
My sitch is easy as i get nothing in the way of communication from my stbex. If mine address's me by name in an email or signs her name at the end I see that as progress LOL.
I can only imagine how difficult it is making hard decisions instead of taking the easy and wrong way if you get little glimmers of hope.
From what you have written I can see the initiative changing sides in your case and think you will have some very difficult decisions to make down the road.
I really hope this all works out for YOU and your D's
Now I know how she felt when she dropped the bomb. She felt relieved at finally being able to be honest about her feelings, but horrified at the consequences.
Now I know how she felt when she dropped the bomb. She felt relieved at finally being able to be honest about her feelings, but horrified at the consequences.
