Looking for help with WAW - 2

[mza8]

Coach, it's so difficult to want to communicate with her now. Yes, I would love to talk to her but not about this damn house stuff. It sucks. I know she doesn't like it either. I completely understand the burden she felt for the past three years. Seems like there's nothing else to talk to her about now...at least nothing else she would want/allow to talk to me about right now. I can't call her to talk about current events, sports, the weather or anything else but this house garbage. I am at a loss of what to do now. The only thing I can think of is to get rid of this house immediately. Like Robx said, it's got to be so depressing for her to talk to me knowing the topic is about the house and that's it. If after I gave her an update I don't think she would talk to me about anything else...fun stuff.

Yes, her name is on the mortgage too. She may not see it but I'm trying to dig us out of this hole. If she never comes back I feel like it's the one last right thing I can do for her to save her from foreclosure...that's why I fell on the sword last week. I still try to do the right thing. I had mentioned a while ago that we got an extension on our taxes. W wasn't sure if she wanted to file jointly or separately. A couple of weeks ago she decided to file jointly. I'm sure the only reason is because we get money back filing together and she would have owed filing herself. Anyway, we get a little more back from federal than state. A couple days ago I told my accountant to deposit the smaller amount into my account and the larger amount into her account. It's not too much difference in the numbers but I took care of it and did the right thing. I didn't make it a big production and go back and forth with W on how to divide the money etc. I made it easy for her.

Coach, almost forgot to tell you, I did pick-up a copy of Learned Optimism last week and am reading it.