For example, I was pretty surprised by what he wrote back, both in his text and in his email. I appreciate his telling the truth instead of avoiding or deflecting, but I want to know why he wasn't "so happy" about my email. I mean, I want to know in his words... I felt that my email was totally in line, so what made him upset that I wrote it? I've said this before, but I want to get to know this person that I *thought* I knew so well. He keeps throwing me for loops!
Mrs. A. - 2 X 4's coming but it is all meant in helping you and I am not trying to be cruel at all.
Mr. A was upset with your email because you are rocking his boat. He'd rather simply have the freedom of visiting your bed, enjoying your affection and stroking of his ego without dealing with having to explain what he is or isn't doing with other women. Honestly, you are simply just fun for him right now. HE sees you when HE wants to. Gives you attention when HE wants to and sees and pursues other women when HE wants to with no consequences whatsoever.
Originally Posted By: Mrs. A
I have nothing to lose at this point, so I'm considering asking Mr. A to attend a few therapy sessions with me. Not under the guise that we're trying to repair our relationship, but just to talk about how we push each others' buttons. I also think I will tell him that I'm not interested in competing with other women to try to win him back. The "winning back" part is all up to him, including the choice of whether or not to try.
How does all that sound?
I think you have a lot to lose with this man right now. I think you are losing your self respect because it seems anytime he throws you a bone (i.e. attention) you jump, roll over, and basically act like his little puppy. With where you are with him emotionally right now, I don't think he would have to do much to "win you back".
Rather than go to therapy with this man, I really think what you need is a complete break from him so that you can clear your head and really focus on what your needs are. Let him experience life completely without Mrs. A for a period of time.
