He feel betrayed and now has to explain HIS actions. Personally, as a rule of thumb you should try NOT to vent to people that are close or related to either of you. I have done this WAY too often and can now see the damage that it does. You need to vent…come here and vent.
YOU were looking for a sympathetic ear – you got one. Was the sympathy you received worth it?
You can’t change the past BUT you can change the future. Learn from this.
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I have forgiven him for so many things in the past,
So did you forgiven from your heart…OR did you forgive and NOW EXPECT the same? Isn’t that an EXPECTATION? As has been posted to you..your keeping score. Don’t.
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it bothers me that he is being so hard on me for really something he did.
Guilt and projection…..he feels guilty that he was caught. Rather than own it – he is going to blame you. It is much easier that way, at least for HIM. So how does the new Kissak deal with it? That really is the question that YOU need to answer for YOU.
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He did say he accepted my apology....but it didnt make him feel better.
Forgiveness is the gift that keeps on giving IMO…personally, forgiveness is something that we do EVERY time we are reminded of the sitch. As for HIM feeling better….think about YOURSELF for a sec here. Have you ever done anything that you were guilty of? How long did it take for YOU to feel better?
Bottom line YOU want HIM to feel better so that YOU can feel better.
I am not trying to make you feel any worse as a matter of fact, my advice would be to just let it go. Let this whole sitch go.
Now you know who you can speak to – learn from it, dust yourself off and keep steppin…
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
