Said that for thirteen years, I had been promising that we were this close to being financially safe
This is a huge need for women. To all the men reading you would be wise to understand it.
Pin do you see how you having cancer fed her fear of this need not being met?
You need to go back and validate her feelings on this. She doesn't know how to validate, lead and teach her.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.