Yes, Soliel (and everybody), Mr. A is totally cake-eating and I certainly don't want to be intimate with him anymore after that confession.
But I still want to talk to him in person. This may sound weird, but it's not that I want to see him face-to-face so that I can try to play on his heartstrings, it's more like I want to keep this crazy experiment going.
For example, I was pretty surprised by what he wrote back, both in his text and in his email. I appreciate his telling the truth instead of avoiding or deflecting, but I want to know why he wasn't "so happy" about my email. I mean, I want to know in his words... I felt that my email was totally in line, so what made him upset that I wrote it? I've said this before, but I want to get to know this person that I *thought* I knew so well. He keeps throwing me for loops!
I have nothing to lose at this point, so I'm considering asking Mr. A to attend a few therapy sessions with me. Not under the guise that we're trying to repair our relationship, but just to talk about how we push each others' buttons. I also think I will tell him that I'm not interested in competing with other women to try to win him back. The "winning back" part is all up to him, including the choice of whether or not to try.
