I am sorry you are here, but there is a lot of support, advice, insight and friendship to be gained here. We've all been thru this and it sucks, no sugar coating things. I too have a stubborn W, but that doesn't mean there is no hope.
Boy o Boy how I can relate. First thing to remember is this will take so much work and effort from you that you will have to dig down deep into yourself and find the strength.
Don't believe words from your WAW. Just as she won't believe you saying you will change.
Actions are the key. Show her. The key it to mentally prepare yourself for either outcome and no matter what happens you will be OK. (It's not easy) But once you get there you won't feel the "Pressure" of saving your M.
Take care of your self first and find out what your up against.(Other Man?) I know stress can cause many problems in a M.
The more info you could provide the better we can help. gr8
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