Need some encouragement

[kissak]

I texted him to say Hi because that is something we have always done.


Im in need of advice this morning. Not sure how to handle this.

I have found out why my H is upset with me. He told me last night. A few weeks ago when I found out about him sending flowers to this woman friend of his, I had talked to someone in confidence about it. Or so I thought. This woman is a crisis counselor for a womens shelter. She works with woman of domestic violence. I have known her for a while and she has known alot about my sitch since the beginning. She is the one who gave us the recommendation of a marriage counselor in the beginning of all of this. She has known my H alot longer than me.

Well, I talked to her about what was going on. Told her that my H had taken flowers to a friend of his who was feeling down. This "friend" I was telling this too goes on to say that my H is probably having an affair and I needed to get out or be careful because things could happen if he is messing around on me, like diseases and all that stuff.

Anyway, she told several different people that my H knows, that he was having an affair with someone in another town and was taking her flowers and she also added in quite a few other comments or opinions of her own. Well, this got back to my inlaws who then called my H about it. He has said he is getting calls and having to explain his business to other people. He is furious with me for speaking to anyone about it. I told him that I did tell my best friend and my sister knew about it because she was there when I found out. He says I should have never spoke to anyone about it because now people think he is having an affair with someone.

I apologized. I didnt feel comfortable about it. After all he did take flowers to some lady and Im NOT sure what went on. I told him that I only spoke about what I knew had happened. That this person blew it way out of proportion! BUT he is angry at me and is having a hard time forgiving me. Which makes me angry after all he has done that i have forgiving him for. All I did was talk to a friend about something he did.

I guess saying im sorry for talking about it is all I can do. I am sorry that I talked to this person now and I will no longer talk to her about my sitch. Im not sure if I should say something to her or not. Would that help or not???

Not sure how to handle this with my H.

But now IM upset with myself about it all when I dont think I should be, after all, this is about something that he did behind my back. So, why do I feel guilty????