For what it's worth, I think you did amazing. I'm sure it was one of the hardest things you had to do but it did need to be done. You need to be loved for who you are...not just as the babies daddy. Loved and not 'tolerated'.
Now it's her turn to figure out what she wants. I hope for you/your family sakes, she finds the genuine love for you that you deserve.
One question I may have missed in all of the posts...what do your kids know as far as you and her? Did either of you already leave before? Basically, have you had the 'talk' with your kids yet?
Good on ya PH, Doodi
"I feel like Rocky in the fifteenth round, beaten beyond recognition, when I realize, the only person I've been fighting for is...myself."