Pun

Originally Posted By: Pun
where I've let go so completely there is no going back.


This is normal. I felt this way. Eric already said his experience up there ^^^^^^.

PEI and Missher could chime in here too I think.

Normal. And good.

It is another level of detachment. It is the normal reaction to this

Originally Posted By: pun
I can say that I did my best. I tried to get him all the help I was able to get him. I just lost. Plain and simple.


Lost what? All your efforts here were for what?

To convince H your life together is better than he is choosing to remember?

To get him to come back?

To win the battle over the other W?

To validate yourself by getting H to see you are worth more than he chooses to see right now?

PUN!

Read what I just wrote again.

And don't just nod your head.

You are so close to seeing what you need to see.

I can tell you all day long how much I admire you and your strength

BUT

Until you answer the question of

WHY are you doing this?

WHY are you here?

What is your goal?

What do you hope to gain?

You will not see what we see for YOU.

You had expectations here. Expectations of your H.

It is not happening. You feel resentment and anger.

You feel frustrated. You want to give up.

So you convince yourself maybe it's you who doesn't love him anymore.

SOUR GRAPES!

You just love him only if he loves you back right?

You just love him until he shows you some sign that he values you?

Values your M?

Ask yourself these questions Pun.

And stretch out those legs woman you're getting ready to take some huge steps...

If you choose to.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am