Hello to all, I have done a lot of thinking about why my wife was unhappy and over the years I did not hit the mark. I am in healthcare and the hours are long and hard. This was at a big loss to my family. There were long hours and long meetings and the family time suffered. When I was home I was so tired that I would sleep. I would be so frustrated that I would ignore my wife because I needed quiet time. I was wrong and did change my job several times and over time I was back to where I was.
I changed my last job 8 years ago and again the hours were terrible and the family suffered. I changed my job again about 8 weeks ago and my hours are 7-3 am on one week and off one week.My wife knew this and said too little too late.
My wife wanted to go to school to be a Dental Hygienist and made plans without my knowledge and then has moved out.
I changed my job 5 times over a span of 29 years and the old story of they (organization) promise things until your in the door and then it is the same..
In any case, when I came home yesterday I noticed that my wife's car was in the driveway and she was in the house laying on the couch. She lost her cell phone and was notifying the company. I was so happy to see her and she asked me how I was and I said okay. She then asked me if I was working for the same organization and I said yes but I am at another hospital ( Long Term Acute Care Hospital). She asked me if I was reverting back to the other hospital and I said no. I am on permanent status. She seemed surprised and I know she knew this before she left. In any case she seemed less angry and my daughter came home and she left to take her to dance. My father-in-law called me yesterday and said that he felt his daughter still loved me , but would need to save face about coming home. I have no indication that this is the case. I did send my wife a text that said I miss you and the girls and wish you would move back home. I dont know if she ever got the text since she had lost her phone. My father-in-law thinks she will come around. I told him that I thought we need to be counseled and that I did want her back. I dont know what will be.
Mach, I believe I understand what you are saying and appreciate your efforts as well as you great people for helping me. Bobby O