I know that I have learned that there is nothing you can do to make your H see what he is doing is wrong. Like Rondo said, it is easier to hide in the A than to face an ugly truth about himself.
The A is about running from responsibilities. The A is not about anything you did. He will only work toward saving the M when he is ready to be an adult and face consequences. You just keep doing positive things for YOU.
Honestly, even if your were the b*tch from he!!, the ADULT path would be to talk to you about your behavior towards him and why it was making him unhappy. To simply run away and have an A, not the adult thing to do.
Yup. Absolutely. H still tries to say that I pushed him away from me & toward OW. That's a bunch of hooey! Every time he tries that excuse I refute it. Every time he tries to offer any excuse, I refute it. H's A is about H, H's lack of responsibility to me & M, H's selfishness.
Wtf? I was M'd to H, so I was also aware that the M was in trouble. Suggested to H that we do something about it. H blew it off; b/c he was already having A, I just didn't know it yet. I was just as unhappy as H. Instead of f&*king some guy, I tried to fix it. That's the big diff between H & me. I maintain accountability & responsibility for the things I do/don't do.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
