First I can only give you advice based on what you have written at the end of the day it is YOU that must decide what is best for you and your family.
First things first...your scared shi*less and that is no way to live your life. So calm down and calm down now. Have a glass a wine, chill out for a second.
The fact that your H is sitting away from you is normal. In his mind it is over. And honestly that is the way you need to act. The old M must die in order for a new one to be born. Also, no one can ensure that your H may come back. Let me ask you a question...
Do you want a man that is scared or one that is confident? Do you want a partner that is secure in himself or one that is nervous wreak?
Quote:
I was a nervous wreck trying to look happy and confident
You can only LOOK it if YOU FEEL IT. Tricks will not work. Acting like you are happy can only go so far. You need to find YOUR happiness. Find it on YOUR own - cause right now he can't and actually should never GIVE you YOUR happiness. That is way too much pressure for any one person. So please Rysmom, find something to make you happy.
Now on to the financial stuff...
If YOUR H is not giving you a dime and YOU NEED the money in order to live and support you and your child then I say file a child support claim against him.
Sometime we need to listen to our attorney's...
Rysmom, this needs to become about YOU and YOUR son..and no longer about YOUR H.
So, here is what I suggest...
Write down what your household bills are (in detail) Things like how much do you spend on food, electricity, child activities, etc. Determine how much money you will need to maintain a life for you and your son. Then...apply your income and see where you are short. If the amount is reasonable, I would ask your H to begin to pay this...
He can either assume some of the bills directly OR he can just write a check for you.
If he agrees then really you do not need to file.
Whatever you do...rysmom...the most important thing for YOU right now is to face that fear. Look that f*cker right in the face - stare it down and face it.
You can do this chit...now put on a pair of big girl panties...and face this.
I got ya back!
God Bless, Eric
Oh...and please have that glass of wine and relax.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
