Your esteem should NEVER be tied to someone other than your..."self".
Detachment IMO, does not just "happen". It is a slow process that has it's ups and downs. IF you believe that you will wake up one day and all of a sudden feel detached, then you are setting yourself up for failure.
You love this man and that's okay. Allow yourself the time to grieve the loss. The key is not to remain in that grieving process beyond what is really necessary. Staying too long will keep you "stuck", will not allow you to "grow" and will NOT help your self esteem.
What will help YOUR self esteem is beginning to GAL...
Do me a favor...
Write down a few things that make you really happy
Write down a few things that YOU always wanted to do BUT did not do
The feelings that you have are very normal. I too felt abandoned and sometime I still do. This is not an easy process to go through...but through it we must go.
No short cuts here...just a lot of hard work.
So, after you write down those few things...sit back...relax for a bit and then reflect on what is GOOD in your life.
Chin up,
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
