To contrast what Lotus just said, with New Beginnings the claim is that it does not matter if one or both spouses does not want to be there - as long as you're willing to show up it can work. That was definitely the case with me/H. He DID NOT want to go! Was adament about it - even tried to cancel several times. He went grudgingly. However, afterwards he admitted to me and the kids that it was definitely worthwhile. He might not have changed overnight but that weekend was the turning point in him seeing that things could work out.
Now, we are not 100% reconciled at this point, but much progress has been made. He stopped his inappropriate chatting/texting with other women - is home when he is supposed to be home - participates in the family, and our R is positive. There's been no more talk of leaving. We are sleeping in the same bed and are sometimes intimate. It just needs to go one more level in commitment to the M for good and final reconcilation. I believe we got as far as we have thanks to techniques and information learned at New Beginnings.
NOW...I would think Retrouvaille would be great for us for that next step!!!
