is he wrong for wanting to be by the kids, maybe you can work on it if you become willing to work on the marriage. i really do not see how you can tell him you will not work on the marriage. just me, but that make no sense to me at all. how can you expect him to be normal not knowing and the fact he wants to stay with the kids. you should be so lucky because most men would say go. the fact he wants you and the kids should indicate that he is willing to whatever it takes to resolve your family issues. ddodi, just make this work for you, you husband and the children. in that order.


Me - 39 yrs old
Wife - 39 yrs old
Married - 18 years
Together - almost 21 year
Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10
Bomb Dropped in May 2010
Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out