I have thought of the exact same words. And before I thought of these words I had heard those words from my H. Loud and clear. With determination that was scary. He had told his lover the exact same words and she used them in every chance she got when she was trying to convince him he would settle with me.
We are now reconciling.I know it's a different sitch but it's also a very fruitless argument, IMO. "Ifs" and "what ifs". Yes, OK. In Greek we say "if my grandmom had b@lls, she would be my grandad". But life doenst work this way.
You DO have kids. And although it's not THE reason to stay with a person you dont love, it's a good enough basis to explore possibilities. Feelings change? Heck YES! Most of us started off our mariages feeling loved and in love, attracted, attractive, admired and admiring. And all those feelings changed over time. And they can change again. In general. Can your wife's feelings change?
Well, I havent read much but she sure doenst sound like she is happy wit HER current state.
IMHO, you have hit this phase where she feels she should have other feelings and she is discouraged. She feels guilty and wrong. And she is no "killer". IMHO, you need separation. Staying in that sitch for so long, stagnating, kills hope and makes change look impossible. To you and to her.
Dont rationalise your decision. Do not rewrite history. You dont need to convince yourself, or do you? K
I have to apologise for not reading your thread. Forget the post if I am wayyy off...
