So anyway, second "conversation" which was over the phone I told him I wanted to reconcile, that I was sorry, that I loved him, etc, and his response was "I don't believe anything you say, and I can't listen to this anymore".
Though you never felt like you got to "pour your heart out" he did in fact hear that you love him, want to work on M, etc. You may not feel you said your piece at full length but he got the gist of what you were saying and unfortunately, he wants no part of it.
GAL, Soa. GAL, GAL, GAL.
You will be fine in time, you really will eventhough it doesn't feel like it.
How were things in your M before the affair?
Before the emotional betrayal, I felt like overall we got along pretty well. We never fought, but we did disagree. We had the same interests in food, music, movies, etc. But I felt like when I tried to communicate about something with him that was important to me, I felt like he wasn't listening. If he didn't want to talk about something, he just wouldn't talk about it, period. I found myself frustrated often that he wasn't listening or hearing me out. If we had a disagreement, I always yielded. He always stood his ground. I wish we'd learned to work things out when our problems were still relatively small, but I'm sure that's a problem most couples who go through divorce make.
