No, not much has changed in house sitch. Haven't heard back from either buyer. So, not much to tell her. She got a voice mail from the bank on Tuesday and wanted to talk to me before she called them back. I'm sure they just want an update if a contract has been submitted yet. All I would tell her to do would be to call them and see what they want. She could then let me know and we'll go from there.
I could update her that I'm doing some minor fixes/painting to the house but there's no reason to tell her. Other than keeping the lines of communication open I just don't see much point in calling her. I'm not sure why it's so important to her to have me call her now? I'm handling things on my end without her, she needs to learn how to do the same on her end. Seriously, she doesn't want me but still expects me to do everything. She can call the bank on her own without my input.
Hasn't this been your eternal catch phrase in your thread?
"Other than keeping the lines of communication open "
Always trying to keep the lines of communication open, why? Give her a shout when the house sells, not when it doesn't.
How would like to hear constantly that the house didn't sell?
That is depressing news. But you in your effort to keep the lines of communication open, keep depressing her. I would hate to hear every day, every two days, every week...
"Just wanted to let you know in one of my always annoying voicemails that you just live to listen to and then delete promptly, the house still didn't sell, talk to you later, byeeeeeeee....." click
Yes I'm being a smart ass but observe the point I'm making.
You are the messenger of depressing news. You always remind her of you and your inability to get the job done that way.
Why would that ever be considered attractive?
Think about it.
You don't need to tell her your fixing up the place, in fact if you tell her that you still have minor fixes and painting to do to the house, you will probably make her even more angry.
You: "Wife I'm going to continue doing some minor fixes/painting to the house..."
Wife" "WTF?! You mean you still have stuff to do around the house? How long has this taken you to do this work? You've been doing these things forever, my goodness, can't you get anything done ever?! Will you be doing the same work when someone eventually buys the house?!"
Maybe a bit extreme but thinking about things from your wife's point of view, that's probably her reaction to whatever you have to say: disdain, negativity, colorless, emotionless, tired, wanting to run away, tired of hearing your voice concerning things that have no excitement or positivity attached to them whatsoever.
No don't update her, that's my advice.
If she wants an update.... SHE WILL CALL YOU AND ASK YOU.
Instead of giving her an encyclopedia for answer, you keep everything short.
And if she expects you to do everything, you tell her plain and simple "Look I'm really busy and I'll get to it if I have time to do it, if you have free time at your end, you're more than welcome to take care of whatever task you're worried about, if you need my help, let me know and I'll see if I can schedule it in."
You're an open book, and one she has read a million times, you have to see that by now.
