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[DanF]

Thanks for responding MIL. I appreciate getting some feedback on these issues.

what is your reason for creating a profile?

I created the profile so that I could start to meet some new women. I'm not a big barfly and don't really meet new women in my day to day routine. I am tired of being alone and even just talking with someone who seems interested would be validation and an ego boost for me. I think it would take my mind off my sitch and help me feel better.

what are you looking for?

I am not really sure what I am looking for exactly. An honest, caring person to spend some time with. Someine to make a connection with. Nothing too serious at this point. Just someone to have fun with. Maybe experiencing and learning from some new women may help me define what it is that I am looking for. I really haven't known anything other than W. I was young when we met. Never had any serious relationships before that.

where are you at emotionally and mentally?

Emotionally I still struggle with this at times. Mostly I am in a pretty good place, but I tend to slip back into the hole from time to time feeling sorry for myself. Mentally I keep telling myself that I need to recover and get on with life. This isn't the end of the world, even though it feels like it at times.

Since we have separated, there is very little contact between us and there is no pursuit from either end. I try to be cordial and that is it. I haven't forgiven her yet, but I am not really angry anymore either.

btw, what are these sandwiches you speak of?

Ahhhh......sandwiches! It is a metaphor for making love. I think Pinhead (not exactly sure who) started it a while back and it kind of caught on with a few of us. I haven't had a sandwich in a very long time and I am famished! I really miss having those.

I don't know, part of me struggles with this because I am not divorced yet, but she has filed and made it abundantly clear to me that she isn't gong to change her mind, so I might as well consider myself divorced, right?

Also, even if I want this to still work out, isn't it kind of pathetic for me to just sit here and wait for her? That is not showing her that I am able to move on and be fine without her. I have read on the boards that dating is what finally turned it around for many guys here and if not, at least they were heaapy enjoying time with other women.

I'm so confused. Maybe I would find someone better than W or at least more compatible with me.

Thanks!