The comments she's made to you about not being attracted to you, feeling like there was never a spark, that she is only with you for the kids, and on and on and on.
That hurts. And some people keep going that way but some people get tired of always meeting a stone wall.
I want more than anything for your M to work, Pin (who of us doesn't) but I am telling you that I hear you loud and clear about how you are feeling--when you want your partner to just give you an ounce of love that you feel for them in return but they won't.
Stay the course and she just may come around.
My heart breaks for you when I read all of this:
Originally Posted By: pinhead
So last night, I was reading a book upstairs, and my wife came into the bedroom. I asked her if she was going to finally explain why she was crying, and she said it was because she knew I wanted her to say ILY back to me.
I said that I'm not sure if I really love you, that I know you don't love me the way you want to.
She asked me why she couldn't be attracted to me. Why she couldn't change her feelings. That she wanted to sooo badly.
Originally Posted By: pinhead
When we were in bed, she asked me what I wanted her to do. I told her that I wanted someone who wanted me. Someone who's heart beat a little faster when I called. She said that there just wasn't that physical attraction, that mutual spark between us, and she thought it had never been there. I asked her what she would do if we didn't have any kids; would she leave right away? She said yes
