I dread those questsions from my D. The D coach (not a DB coach, but a D coach- mental health professional who consults with you about your kids, your D strategy, how you're coping and dealing with your spouse, etc.- pretty cool) I saw said this is VERY common at ages 5-6. They learn about 'happily ever after' and have lots of stuff to say and ask about everyone being together again. They have fantasies about it for awhile.
One of the suggestions she had for me- now my D is only 3, but some of you with younger kids may find this helpful- was to say something like:
"Mommy and Daddy will always be friends, but we are happier when we live in separate houses."
Then to move onto very concrete (and materialistic- she actually used that word b/c kids these ages just are) about "and see, you have TWO rooms, not just one. Hey, would you like to help pick out your new bedspread??" or something like that.)
That's probably too simplistic for age 6, but for 3-4 it is good, I think. Around 4 they start asking more "why" questions, so I didn't cover that with her yet...
She also said- and I was thinking of you Romeo, b/c I know your DD asked this awhile back- that around 5-6 they start asking questions about death and dying that are sometimes, but not always, related to the divorce. I guess it just gets them thinking about people not always being around and if so, will their parents also die at some point, etc. I found it interesting b/c you'd seen it firsthand- but she said that even kids who don't go through a D ask these same questions at this age, too.
