The funny thing is that at some point you'll be free...free from the drama and emotional roller-coaster. But it will be a more true freedom, because you tried and dont have to carry the chains of guilt and regret. These are luxuries that your STBXW may never realize.
Although dont spend a lot of time wondering if your STBXW has regrets, or gets what's coming to her.
Use this to start a new life and do the things you've always wanted. Once my D was done, I packed up and moved to the country, close to Austin. Something Ive always wanted to do. I made new friends and reconnected with old ones. I made my life rich and I no longer wanted or need my XW.
I learned to see my marriage and my XW how they trully were and how destructive they were to my life and family.
Trust me, it's going to take time but you'll get to a better place....and it's worth the wait.
Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08
Just off the phone with the lawyer, we are filing a motion for a continuance today, should know this afternoon if its granted. The orders for the court appointed advocate have been setting on the judges desk since 08-17-10 they have not been fined. If that fails we are going to supina my daughter today.
Thanks everyone for checking in last night was pretty rough. I'm not sure why I got so down last night it still happens just not as often as it did. The thing is when this first happened I was sad because of her, now I could care less about her but man I miss my kids, when I have them it makes me so sad to take them back to her.
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
The thing is when this first happened I was sad because of her, now I could care less about her but man I miss my kids, when I have them it makes me so sad to take them back to her.
I thought and felt excatly the same last year. All I can say is make the most of the time you have with your kids.
Do fun things with them. Be happy when you drop them off to W. When I dropped my kids off I would tell them I had a great time with them and I can't wait to see you ____Day.
It will get better. Be strong
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Sometimes you just want to scream. I had a parent teacher conference this morning, and I was told I could set up and account with the schools computer so I could log on and watch my kids grades, check home work assignments ect. I went back to the school this afternoon when the IT people were there and they could not set me up because my wife did not put me on the kids enrolment cards. She wont help them with their home work sits on her butt drinking beer every night, lets two of my kids get failing grades and I cant help them good grief.
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
Just a roadblock 40. Find out what you need to do to get on their system. Just paperwork I'm sure. You are still her father, she hasn't been granted any custody yet? DO what you have to, don't scream. You can handle it.
This will be one of many screaming moments you'll encounter.
No at this time we do not have a custody agreement, her lawyer never filed the temporary orders, but in Texas it is assumed that you have joint custody, and the law forbids you from keeping school information from either parent, I have this problem now fixed the school called her. Tomorrow I will go to school and get copies of the paperwork she neglected to put me on and take that to my lawyer. It is my understanding that this is a major bo bo on her. She told the school she didnt have my contact information ya right!
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
No at this time we do not have a custody agreement, her lawyer never filed the temporary orders, but in Texas it is assumed that you have joint custody, and the law forbids you from keeping school information from either parent, I have this problem now fixed the school called her. Tomorrow I will go to school and get copies of the paperwork she neglected to put me on and take that to my lawyer. It is my understanding that this is a major bo bo on her. She told the school she didnt have my contact information ya right!
Good for you, 40!
Make sure you are involved in the kids' daily lives. If she won't volunteer the info, you have to go find it.
Standing up for yourself and your kids is a great thing.
Like Pinhead said: Be a grizzly bear for your kids!!!!!!
Went back to the school this morning and got the kids SIC cards, the STBEX listed all of her tramp famile as ok to get kids then didnt even list me. All I can hope is this is just one more blow aginst her being the primary parent. I talked to my lawyer this morning still dont know is we got the continunece or not.
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
Six days if we don't get a continuance my stomach is tied in knots, I cant sleep, its getting close and I am so worried that she will get custody. The way she has acted the last 5 months I know that the only way to have a meaningful relationship with my kids is to get primary. My friends want me to go out tonight I really don't want to go, the STBEX has the kids this weekend and is taking them to the Fort Worth zoo, so I will not get to see them this weekend, or before the court date. I guess I have no reason not to go out with my friends, but I just want to crawl under a rock and go to sleep. My friends go out every weekend they all drink, and Ive been hanging with them every other weekend I'm not that crazy about drinking, I really had not drank anything in 10 years before the bomb dropped, now its what all my friends do. Wednesday when I was so down I ended up hanging out with the ex girlfriend, she is fun to be around and I felt better after leaving her house, but I think we will end up as only friends after the d is final. With the d date so close its hard not to think about what dating will be like, from what I've seen the 40-+ pool of women here where I live is pretty flawed. I met this one girl about 3 weeks or a month ago and the first words out of her mouth was how she had been divorced 3 times and none of them were her fault. I couldn't run from her fast enough she still post on my facebook wanting me to call her. I really think with 4 kids as young as mine there will not be many women interested in me, they will see my kids as baggage I see them as my life. When I was married my wife came before the kids, no woman will ever come before my kids again.
Just rambling now probably not making much sense, hope everyone has a good weekend.
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
