Agreed, you guys need to go start your own thread on how the wind blows and the effects it has on the hormonal changes in male and female oranges that are from California as opposed to the ones from Florida.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Agreed, you guys need to go start your own thread on how the wind blows and the effects it has on the hormonal changes in male and female oranges that are from California as opposed to the ones from Florida.
Bobby, sorry for the hijack
Eric, MHL and Mach are absolutley correct that none of what I said you can control!
They are correct that YOU are the only variable that you can control.
As Miss pointed out...you can read all you want and FTR, I suggest that you do BUT
YOU MUST...
CHANGE FIRST
HEAL
GROW
ENJOY YOUR LIFE
Then....
Well you can fill in the blanks.
The education that Lance speaks of will HELP with many of the above. WHY?
When you understand what your W is going through you will gain compassion...
When you are compassion you begin to understand...
When you understand....
You begin to change and accept
and then everything else around you changes.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
I still see a lot of unanswered questions about you, and a lot of focus on your Marriage.
I see a lot of your interactions are focused on hoping she will "see the light" and come running home to you.
This time is yours, not to waste, pining away at would/could be.
This is a gift to you, and one day you may see that.
The first time I told anyone here that, they wanted to reach through the monitor and choke me, I am sure of that. In time, and I'm sure they will concur.....It really has been.
They just needed to be ready to hear it....
Start with answering the questions that have been asked to you on this thread, and let the real work begin....
You marriage may become new again down the road...no earthly person can give you that answer....
Your answers come from within you, and in time ?
They won't matter as much....at least as much as asking the right questions will....
How much of you are you willing to find ?
Today is a good day to start , as good as any other....
This is a gift to you, and one day you may see that.
Originally Posted By: Mach1
They just needed to be ready to hear it....
Soooo true. You can talk till you're blue in the face, if someone isn't ready, they aren't ready. And it's not for lack of wanting... often we get what we are able to handle at any given time. Don't use it as an excuse to not push yourself though Bobby. Want more. And then you'll start to hear ...
Originally Posted By: Mach1
The first time I told anyone here that, they wanted to reach through the monitor and choke me, I am sure of that.
Really?? I can't imagine .....
Originally Posted By: Mach1
In time, and I'm sure they will concur.....It really has been.
I know you weren't talking about me, but I already see this truth. I am not the same person I was a year ago ... and I am not the same the person I will be a year from now.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
Hello to all, I have done a lot of thinking about why my wife was unhappy and over the years I did not hit the mark. I am in healthcare and the hours are long and hard. This was at a big loss to my family. There were long hours and long meetings and the family time suffered. When I was home I was so tired that I would sleep. I would be so frustrated that I would ignore my wife because I needed quiet time. I was wrong and did change my job several times and over time I was back to where I was. I changed my last job 8 years ago and again the hours were terrible and the family suffered. I changed my job again about 8 weeks ago and my hours are 7-3 am on one week and off one week.My wife knew this and said too little too late. My wife wanted to go to school to be a Dental Hygienist and made plans without my knowledge and then has moved out. I changed my job 5 times over a span of 29 years and the old story of they (organization) promise things until your in the door and then it is the same.. In any case, when I came home yesterday I noticed that my wife's car was in the driveway and she was in the house laying on the couch. She lost her cell phone and was notifying the company. I was so happy to see her and she asked me how I was and I said okay. She then asked me if I was working for the same organization and I said yes but I am at another hospital ( Long Term Acute Care Hospital). She asked me if I was reverting back to the other hospital and I said no. I am on permanent status. She seemed surprised and I know she knew this before she left. In any case she seemed less angry and my daughter came home and she left to take her to dance. My father-in-law called me yesterday and said that he felt his daughter still loved me , but would need to save face about coming home. I have no indication that this is the case. I did send my wife a text that said I miss you and the girls and wish you would move back home. I dont know if she ever got the text since she had lost her phone. My father-in-law thinks she will come around. I told him that I thought we need to be counseled and that I did want her back. I dont know what will be. Mach, I believe I understand what you are saying and appreciate your efforts as well as you great people for helping me. Bobby O
I hope and pray the best for you, but you sound like your expectations are in high gear. CYA = no expectations.
And, as much as I would love to say listen to your wise fil, my fil said the same thing. I said the same thing to my loved sil's. Kids don't tell parent all their thoughts, and the older they get, the less they say.
Hope none of this was a downer to you as you are obviously feeling good, just don't want you hurt and disappointed again.
I did send my wife a text that said I miss you and the girls and wish you would move back home.
Dude.
Mach ... wanna play darts?
Seriously Bobby ... DB 101 ... do me a favor if you're so inclined ... go back to the beginning and reread your thread ... pay particular attention to the advice you've been getting for 26 pages ....
Get back to us ....
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
I did send my wife a text that said I miss you and the girls and wish you would move back home. I dont know if she ever got the text since she had lost her phone.
Hopefully she didn't get it.
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Mach, I believe I understand what you are saying and appreciate your efforts as well as you great people for helping me. Bobby O
I'm not trying to be rude or insensitive here Bob but....no, you are not getting it yet.
