My trials have been pretty well documented. I thought it was time to rename my thread and continute with DB because it seems my situation has entered a new phase.
WAW has been promoting mediation. I sought legal advice, spoke to a mediator myself, and told my W I would be willing to go through the process for her. I said that every cell in my body is against it. We have two twin boys (age 2 1/2).
Today is our consult. Like a fool I have not detatched as much as I know I should. There are nights I come home from work and my W looks completely defeated and overwhelmed by the kids. Just the other night she was stressed out, complaining, etc. I told her to go out. Go anywhere. She didn't have the motivation. So I took the kids out myself just to give her some peace. This, while we have an appointment to interview a mediator. How is she going to do this alone? She can barely survive WITH the aid of mother's helpers all day long.
She treats me like her H, she asks for help, she tells me the things around the house that need fixing, and she instigates dinners together. She's doing this while pushing for mediation.
I can't figure out how she can behave this way, yet still want to destroy her M and family? I keep the peace. I try to keep her happy in some pathetic way that makes me feel like I am helping our situation and she will see how good I am for her. I know deep down that it's really not working. I am just softening reality for her and making this too easy. When I am gone she's going to be seriously challenged. I can't see her keeping her sanity. And my kids don't need to be a stressed out mother all the time. She doesn't value our family. She doesn't see how things can be patched up. Her reasons for D are vague: "We're two different people," "We never really had a real marriage," "You put yourself before the family," "You only care about yourself," "We're just friends." All of that stuff. But she was able to have kids with me only two years ago.
