Had an email fight with H...I don't know...is he out to lunch? Or am I the unreasonable one.
I still take care of all of his bills, the only bill that he is responsible to pay...is his rent. As I mentioned before, he is away visiting OW. He left before the end of September. Usually I would make the rent cheque on the 30th and he would pick it up and take it to his landlord. So the cheque was done on the 30th but he left town 3 days before that. Well the landlord called him on the 4th asking where is the rent. That was the first time that he realized that he didn't pay his rent....his only responsibility...am I dealing with a teenager or what?
This is the string of emails we exchanged about it:
H - I forgot to remind you about rent. Landlord called me to remind me. Please make the cheque and have (Daughter) take it to the manager tomorrow. Ideally before school. Please let me know today so I can let them know. Thank you.
(no acknowledgment of fault on his part and he is asking me to tell D to do this for him)
Me - Your rent cheque has been sitting here since last week. If you want your daughter to go and pay your rent for you before she goes to school, please arrange it with her tonight and I’ll give her the cheque.
(I thought that was reasonable to ask him to arrange it with D himself)
H - I texted D. Not sure why you didn’t bring the cheque to our last meeting... I would appreciate if you could pls remind MY daughter this morning...
(Blaming me for not giving him the cheque days ahead in anticipation that he may be out of town????)
Me - I’m sorry, I didn’t know that it was my responsibility to remind you to pay your rent. I assumed that you’d made some arrangements since you were leaving, it was not my place to ask, I’m not your mother. If you re-read your emails, you are making it sound like it’s my fault that you forgot. D just told me that you only asked her this morning and she has to run to school so she doesn’t have time and she is working right after school. So I guess it would help you if I went to pay it for you, right?
(Well I could have been more DB like...)
H - I don’t know what to say. I am making it sound like it’s your fault??!!! Pls read bellow and re-read my text from yesterday and point to me where do I make it sound like it’s your fault!! Yes, it’s my responsibility, but last month you brought the rent cheque to our meeting before the end of the month... if you have had the cheque for a week as you said, then you had it last Tuesday when we saw each other... Why not bring it and give it to me... I told D that she could take the cheque after work, but she was reluctant. So yes, if you would take it to her it would be helpful... ( pay it for me?) But don’t do it if it’s such a problem for you and I will tell the manager that I can’t arrange it before I come back. At this point I really don’t care if she is going to put some kind of letter into my file that would affect my future renting arrangements...
(Still blaming me, still no admittance of fault and still no "please")
Me - It’s not “such a problem” for me. I would have done it no problem if you’ve emailed me and said. “I’m sorry, I forgot about the rent, could you PLEASE take the cheque to the manager for me? That’s all you had to do....I really don’t understand you....and this hostility. And no I didn’t have the cheque on Tuesday and on purpose didn’t bring it to you....I made it on the 30th as I usually do.
Never got "please" from him...so I took it to the landlord anyway.
