H pushing Divorce

[beastiemanager]

Well I think I am understanding the phrase "get yourself a box of popcorn and watch the show."

My daughter found out last evening that OW is posting all kinds of stuff on her fb account. She is saying how her daughters "adore" my H, and her granddaughters too. How "amazing" my H is. How good she looks in her (leathers) especially her chaps...yuck. And they go riding on the bike. They went to a function and were "Lord and Lady(our last name)." She is nuts! I don't think H has a clue. So I was thinking, could this be "the show? " Should I get the box of popcorn?

It hurts to hear the stuff about her daughters and H. My girls are hurt, as many are. Especially since he said that they only call him when they want something. It is actually the other way around. They were so close to him. They could talk to him about anything.

I am thinking she is doing this because she is not getting anything from me. I don't look at her fb and I don't respond to anything I hear. I can't believe how aggressively public she is. H is still trying to hide - again she is blabbing.

I have some questions I have been thinking on a few days. I was wondering about sending an email to my b-i-l and s-i-l, (H brother)to tell them H has filed on me. I want to tell them I will always think of them and consider them family. I want them to know this and hope they will feel the same towards me. I don't think they know about divorce stuff. Or OW. Or should I not do that ? It is the same with m-i-l, she may know of d filed, but I am not sure. Should she know about OW and affair. Or is it best to leave it be and let H deal with it.

And- I am NC with H. Only met him recently to discuss finances. Went NC again. H sent a text a couple nights ago stating he could not be here on his regular day, and H asked if it was okay if he came on Thursday instead. I told him it would be fine to come on Thursday. I got a "Thankyou" back from him. Two words- I couldn't believe it! My question is, should I keep to NC and be away from here as usual, or can I be here at house, but working outside? Just stay away from him? I mean I don't want to ruin the pattern of NC either. Advice?