Half Baked Spring Chicken

[ericmsant2]

"I'm sorry you feel this way. I had hoped we would come to some sort of settlement as far as the house is concerned, but perhaps you are right, and it would be best settled in court.

I think this was a good response.

No, I didn't "go after" as you put it Darel & Greg. We didn't have anything, but the house, and that was mine. You remember, my house that I sold so we could build the home for retirement? The land in the country with the stocked fishpond that made you so happy? I've worked alongside you for twenty years towards the "dream retirement". Oh, and 'those kids'? I believe two of them are yours. It's not as if you married me not knowing the package deal.
I would like to say Thank you. I have a closer and warmer relationship with all the kids & grands than ever before. I spent too many years putting you in front of everything else, and discovered that no one can make another happy. You have to make yourself happy. You don't sound very happy yourself"

Sorry Pun..here is what I heard (err…read) in the second piece of your response.

No chit head, I didn't "go after" YOU We didn't have anything, but the house, and that was mine and look obviously you did not remember that so let me remind you – yes I have said that I have changed but I’m gonna remind you again. In part because I am really pissed off about the OW. You remember, my house that I sold so we could build the home for retirement? You know…H….the whole dream that I had that you totally fuc*ed up. BTW, can you tell that I am pissed off The land in the country with the stocked fishpond that made you so happy? I've worked alongside you for twenty years towards the "dream retirement". Oh, and 'those kids'? I believe two of them are yours. It's not as if you married me not knowing the package deal. and now you have bailed on me
I would like to say Thank you. And while I am at it rub in your face that I have a closer and warmer relationship with all the kids & grands than ever before. I spent too many years putting you in front of everything else, and discovered that no one can make another happy. You have to make yourself happy. So you see H….i finally am standing up for myself. But before I let you go…I just realized how much I love you so I am going to tell you all about the changes that I am going through. Why you ask? Oh…so that you can realize what you are missing.
You don't sound very happy yourself" and before I forget, I know your not happy with OW. BTW, did I tell you I am pissed off

Punkin…I hope I did not offend you with the above. Maybe I am wrong BUT I saw your anger in your response. I feel that you do not need to remind him of things. He ain’t stupid. He is having a crisis. Personally, less talking and more action on your part. Let your actions do your talking. BTW, doing nothing is an action.

I really am at a loss as to how to respond.

Then don’t respond. At least not today.

In his rant, he refused to meet halfway as planned, but wants to sit down civilly, as long as it's at his lawyer's office.

If you have not retained council I would not sit down with any lawyer. What I would propose is that he email YOU with his proposal. Then I would tell him I need X number of days to think about it.

Personally, I would secure council. You are way too emotionally attached to this right now.

She must be pushing really, really hard.

Do you know this to be true or are you just projecting your own fear?

I don't think I said anything offensive or angrily.

I am not sure that I agree BUT I could be wrong. Look at again tomorrow. Strip away your own emotions from the response and re-read it. Tell me what you see.

Punkin, right now as hard as it is...you must remain in control.

It seems like you are calm but i sense an undertone of anger, which will not bode well for you.

Center yourself before your next exchange.

God Bless,
Eric