I agree that it sounds as though H is getting lots of pressure from the OW. She must be nervous at the prospect of you two meeting alone........and that's a good sign.
Jody always said to drop the rope. I am not sure what that would mean in your situation. You will have to figure that out.
Have you retained counsel? You should not meet at H's attorney's office unless your attorney says that is a good idea. I don't think any attorney representing you would say that is a good idea.
When the time comes for negotiating, if your H won't do it face to face with you (without attorneys present) then you will have to let your attorney do the heavy negotiating for you. I think that H will figure out quickly that it will cost him less money in attorney's fees if he will negotiate directly with you.......... but H sounds like a slow learner. He may need to learn this lesson by paying for his attorney to negotiate with your attorney first.
