I'm more confused than ever now. I need to start a new thread, but where? Infedility? Surviving the D? We're separated - now what? MLC? (he's 45 but this is a pattern for him) Seriously - where do I go?

Antlers, thank you! I am questioning everything I've done and said. Scrutinizing it. Beating myself up. This was a place I came to for support. Not to feel judged. I didn't expose to be a jerk. I exposed to try to find supporters. I exposed to make the affair less exciting. I exposed to push them into reality. I will admit none of that has worked. But now what?

So, truly, what forum is the best?

Me:38 H: 45
OW:34
S:4 Bonus S: 12 and 16
2nd M for both
Together 12 yrs M: 6
EA suspected: 5/10 confirmed: 7/2/10
Separated: 8/12/10