My existing thread in Piecing is 18 pages, which is on the long side. So I am starting a new one here in Infidelity.
I will post my story for those who don't know it. It is 3 years old already, and my H and I are celebrating our 31 anniversary today. Last night he told me that he is happy that he married me and happy that he is still married to me. He thinks we were fated to be together. Maybe so, but 3 years ago when he was dreaming of his long lost love, he was singing a different tune.
That is the point of this thread. For those who think it can't change because things are bad now, I am here to say that it can change. But there is a caveat. I have talked to a lot of people in the throes of unhappy marriages, and I can't tell who will be able to reconcile and who won't. But I do know that in order to reconcile, you have to be able to forgive another person. Only you know what your limits are. But, that is my little tidbit of wisdom after 3 years.
There are several people on this board who have been to Retrouvaille with their spouses. Some have had great experiences, some have OK experiences, and a few have had bad experiences. I hope that everyone with experience from Retrouvaille will post on this thread. Every experience is valuable to those who are looking for help.
And for those who have never heard of Retrouvaille, the website is www.helpourmarriage.org, they offer weekends-- all over America, in Canada, and many international locations-- dedicated to rediscovering the bond between husband and wife. Feel free to ask questions. We will do our best to answer them.
