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Coach #2084569 09/29/10 09:15 PM
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I'm up to 5 miles, so 1/2 will be a lot of growth in just 9 months. I fully expect to have to walk a lot of it since training in the winter will get tough in Nebraska. But my goal is to run it all in under 2 hours.

Right now I'm trying to work on my speed more than my endurance. I had a 53 year old guy in my last 5K; he was averaging 7 min miles without seeming too worked up. I was humbled.

I have to say that I'm thoroughly enjoying racing. I have a 5K in two weeks, and it can't come quick enough. Best GAL I've come across for me.

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The Greek and I are doing a full in Dec.

Wow, congrats to you both! That's exciting! And thanks also for your encouragement - I'm really looking forward to the run, and the process of training for it. After all, it's all about the journey, right?! smile


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Originally Posted By: pinhead
I fully expect to have to walk a lot of it since training in the winter will get tough in Nebraska.

Doesn't matter how you get across that finish line as long as you show up and enjoy it. smile

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I have to say that I'm thoroughly enjoying racing. I have a 5K in two weeks, and it can't come quick enough. Best GAL I've come across for me.

smile Good for you! Be sure to post your progress!

PS Sorry I couldn't be of more help to you today - sounds like you're having a tough week.


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Yeah, it's been a rough one, mostly because I've been opening my eyes to where we really stand (pushing away my own fog). Her week away really made it clear that things weren't as rosy as I had hoped. Probably made it clear to her too.

But I've become a firm believer in facing facts and doing something about situations instead of sweeping them under the rug.

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After all, it's all about the journey, right?!


It's all about the training. Putting the miles in whether you feel like it or not. Running 10 miles before work is challenging. It takes commitment. We did 13 last weekend. It's crazy but you just do it.


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Originally Posted By: Coach

It's all about the training. Putting the miles in whether you feel like it or not. Running 10 miles before work is challenging. It takes commitment. We did 13 last weekend. It's crazy but you just do it.

Wow. I can alllmost wrap my brain around what a half might take to train for (my H's run a number of them) but a full is just another kind of cat altogether. I admire everyone who goes for it!

Say, have either you or Greek dealt with shin troubles? They've hampered my progress in the past. I've got some new stretches and strengthening routines for them though, so praying they won't slow me down again. Any tips would be appreciated if you have any. Cheers, and thanks again, FMV.


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Originally Posted By: pinhead

But I've become a firm believer in facing facts and doing something about situations instead of sweeping them under the rug.

Yah the 'sweep' plan always ends up biting me in the &ss too. Hope things are looking clearer for you soon.


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Hi all, I've listened to a couple exceptional book on communication over the last few days that I couldn't wait to share with you all. The first is called 'Crucial Confrontations' by Patterson, Grenny, McMillan and Switzler. I found it particularly helpful because it outlines strategies to help you avoid 'staying silent' when faced with conflict.

The other book is called Coping with Difficult People by Robert Bramson. I'm just in the middle of this one, but there have been many, many 'aha' moments already. The title is a bit of a misnomer because it's just as much about dealing with difficult behaviors from anyone, not just people who are chronically 'difficult'.

So far it's covered how to deal with and respond to behaviors like: criticisms veiled as 'jokes', disrespectful comments, insults, and outright rudeness (even how to handle all of these if you're in public. It also has a section on dealing with 'Clams' (aka people who 'clam up' and withdraw / refuse to talk when faced with conflict. I'm not up to that section yet but am interested to hear it.

PS oh forgot to mention - both of these books have good examples for both family life and work situations.

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Oh, and just a journal. Think I'm starting to understand a pattern that might be under my perception that he doesn't 'need' me, or that he's indifferent to me. The Sunday morning after he came back from his business trip, it wasn't even 8:30am yet and he'd rattled off three different things he wanted me to do and needed help with. Although he didn't say he wanted these things done immediately, his voice was just urgent sounding or something... he had that overwhelmed sound like he gets when he's got a long list of TTD that he doesn't want to do.

So I ended up feeling myself recoil, pushed and cornered. I just told him I'd like to finish my morning tea and wake up a bit first, but I know I had an edge in my voice.

Later that morning, after we'd finished these tasks I told him how frustrated I'd felt after he'd asked me to do all these things with him, especially so early in the morning on a Sunday, and that I'd really just wanted to relax and enjoy our morning b/c he'd been away so long. I asked that if he did have a list of TTD, could he could just write them down instead so that I didn't have to try to remember it all. The message was good, my delivery stunk. I didn't criticize, I tried not to blame, but my voice was shrill and he knew I was upset. He looked crushed. I felt awful and ended up apologizing... it just wasn't great.

And the worst part is, that after I thought about it, I realized that this WAS him needing me. This was him ASKING me for help. And I blew it. So I guess if I'm complaining that he might feel I don't make a difference in his life, I have to take responsibility for my share of it - when he has asked me to be there, I've let him down. So that hurts. I'm not going to blame myself for the whole thing - he's got some work to do too. But understanding my roll in it gets me one more step further in unravelling some of these last little knots.

Other than that, the week has started off well; we were both happy to see each other after a week apart, and we both missed each other a lot while he was away.


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A great day. Last night H was moody about something; I asked him what was wrong and you know what he did? He TOLD me! Bet the neighbors heard my jaw hit the floor. It felt WONDERFUL that he'd actually open up and share something with me that he was troubled about. It made me feel like he trusted and valued me. Still can't believe it. I did my best to actively listen, try not to fix but I was so surprised I'm sure I flubbed some. But wow. It felt great. I wish I knew what it was that inspired that change in him so I can help it continue. Anyways have a lovely evening everyone. FMV.


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