My walk away wife story

[40andsadintexas]

BTW, in the thread about your "favorite poster" you said something to the effect of not having anything to offer other than how to get a D. I hope you see the fallacy of that statement. The lessons you have learned and are still learning are going to be invaluable to someone who finds them self in the same position and thinks that no one understands. You do. We do.

Yes, the vets serve a great purpose here by letting us know that they have "been there, done that, this works and this doesn't work." Don't underestimate the power that you have for helping others having been through this yourself. Trust me on this one.

We just have to agree to disagree I really feel that I have nothing to give back to this board. I tried DBing just didn’t work, I read both books, I GAL my butt off, I made new friends, I let her go, nothing made her look back. DBing along with some other books made me feel better, I put on a fake shell that no one sees through, but its fake, tonight I took some stuff back to my kids after having them for a week, and started bawling like a baby driving home. Not crying for my wife, I don’t want her crying because I miss my kids.
I hope and pray that if I ever get in another relationship (which with 4 young kids I kind of doubt that ever happens) it goes better than this one, but looking back on my marriage I have very few regrets about my actions I took care of my family, but still hope its not me that made my wife go crazy (for lack of a better term). My stbex is hot, I may have married up beyond what my unhandsome mug could keep interested I just don’t know. I have thousands of questions and very few answers.
I act like I’m strong and over it but deep inside is a very scared little boy who is scared as heck, I know my kids come first, but would love to be able to talk to my dad so he could point me in the right direction.
No offering advice is for people like coach and PDT who have there act together.